I was asked to list my thought on the rules for raising children. The more I thought about it the more I
thought I’d share.
Before you can raise a child properly, you must want the child. They can’t be ‘accessories’ that you produced to stay in line with your friends.
On that same note, if you are a human with any type of feelings you will fall in love with that child the moment they take their first breath.
I will provide this in ‘bullet points.’
1. Be sure that they know that they are loved.
2. Make your presence as the guiding parent very clear.
3. Don’t be soft and try to make things better than you had. That has been a global child raising mistake for years now.
4. Don’t buy them things just because they say they want the things. Effort is involved on their part.
5. Mention to other parents how your feel about your children, and how proud you are of them. Let the children see that.
6. When someone does something nice for them, be sure that they thank the giving party.
7. Treat them like children until they show signs that they are starting to understand how the world functions. Then you can start to loosen the reigns.
8. Don’t force your ideas on them. Be open to their thoughts. Make a strong effort to understand their ideas and motives but keep it in perspective.
9. When they break rules, be sure that they are ‘inconvenienced’ for that action. The more severe break, the more severe inconvenience.
10. Don’t view you children as training specimens, but human beings that you brought into the world, and it is your responsibility to guide them correctly. The end result in what type of citizens they become has your fingerprints all over it.
11. Be sure they understand the concept of ‘earning.’ If you don’t know what it means, study it.
12. Always view the future end result in any of your children in a favorable light as you continue to do your best to guide them through. If you give up, or get tired, the game is over.
With all of that said, there will be daily winds making every effort to blow any consistency off course. If you get knocked down, the success is getting back up and looking for an alternative stance.
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